Handling Unwanted Invites

[IvanXLIV]

(01-21-2016, 02:47 AM)Sasso Wrote:

(01-20-2016, 01:48 PM)IvanXLIV Wrote: MsTan, Sasso, 823 and others... your (mis)adventures are quite enlightening. I'm beginning to suspect that most of the female users are, on a regular basis, flooded with 'unwanted invites'... and mostly by men. It certainly factors in the waning interest of some (as shown in the corresponding thread on this forum).

This is obviously tiresome and they cope with it according to their specific personnalities; some get REALLY angry (something I understand completely), others - like posters here - seem to have adopted a "bait, trap and release" approach... it does have the benefit of filtering out the truly undesirable, and rewards the more worthy "applicants" accordingly (for those who show a minimum of patience, respect, and pleasant discourse).

This being said, I find it somewhat frustrating when simple curiosity is misunderstood for a poorly-worded opening line. For the past two nights, I've been looking for interesting dialogue with no strings attached, often drawn to a particular user because of its name... Let's just say the positive answers are few and far between.

I would say "Flooded" is a strong word to use. I wouldn't say it's constant, but it's certainly frequent in places like the beach or the west.

My rule here is that I don't make fun of anybody I think doesn't deserve t. Curiosity or genuine interest to talk is  fine, and even to role play a bit if they've approached it tactfully and didn't make it blindingly obvious that was all they were interested in me for. The responses I've posted on this thread are from guys (all male so far but I haven't been specifically targeting men, just haven't received quite the right sort of message from a girl yet) that directly open with an obtuse pick up line or directly ask with no intention for anything but sex.

I wouldn't attack someone that didn't do that. I spend far more time talking to people that 'do it right' than the sort of people I post about here. I've even been recognised in game a few times now off this thread, and I've happily talked to them (I'm loving the attention honestly ), so as long as you don't wear your intention for sex on your sleeve, you're fine, and if the person you approached reacts hostilely, then they probably aren't what you need in your game anyway.

Thanks for the thoughtful insight, Sasso. My perception was probably skewed by the fact that I don't use a female avatar, and thus could never precisely "measure" the degree and frequency of unwanted invites...

My apologies to all who felt slandered by my commentary - especially the "bait, trap and release" bit.

I think I need to do some additional research in the field 

Cheers,