01-24-2017, 03:03 PM
First i gotta say we ve gone way off topic, but since the mods allow it and i think its a good discussion to have, ill keep going
@johnsins since im the one who pulled the 1 in 12 odd, i kind of feel targeted but if i can quote myself from page 6:
"But ultimately u cant knock anyone for not wanting the same u do." And "i m just trying to offer the something they seem to want at first (that can be fun or go very wrong, but ultimately its how u find pple who u re confortable with, and whose style u enjoy)"
Ull have to admit we very much agree on a lot. I dont agree u can change the 1 in 12 odd to 1 in 2 tough, that would require changing my sexuality, or someone else's, which i feel is a bridge too far.
And even in the rps there are limits to where ill go. I tried cater to a fantasy i didnt have earlier, and it left me feeling horrible (the fact she left without saying anything-part of the rp for her i hope- didnt help, i had another rp i felt bad doing, but the partner saying she enjoyed it afterwards made up for most of it)
Also, i dont pretend to be a good/experienced rper, just someone that enjoys doing it, and has trouble getting the unwritten rules, so yes telling me im just bad at this can be a fair point (tough i swear im getting better).
@udyr I have to disagree, theres no way anyone can be emotionnally invested on just a profile (what u describe might be true after a session or 2 tough). Anyway after a bit of soulsearching (and hopefully im not opening a can of worms here), i d say its more because, as a representative of a mainstream sexuality, i m simply not used to not being catered to this way, and almost feel like im a minority. I can cope, but still i guess some of my posts can come as whiny, even tough i always try to keep them positive and offer solutions for what i see as problems ingame.
Anyway im still playing, because the good vastly exceeds the bad there, and im still here on the forum because i enjoy arguing the game almost as much as playing it.
@johnsins since im the one who pulled the 1 in 12 odd, i kind of feel targeted but if i can quote myself from page 6:
"But ultimately u cant knock anyone for not wanting the same u do." And "i m just trying to offer the something they seem to want at first (that can be fun or go very wrong, but ultimately its how u find pple who u re confortable with, and whose style u enjoy)"
Ull have to admit we very much agree on a lot. I dont agree u can change the 1 in 12 odd to 1 in 2 tough, that would require changing my sexuality, or someone else's, which i feel is a bridge too far.
And even in the rps there are limits to where ill go. I tried cater to a fantasy i didnt have earlier, and it left me feeling horrible (the fact she left without saying anything-part of the rp for her i hope- didnt help, i had another rp i felt bad doing, but the partner saying she enjoyed it afterwards made up for most of it)
Also, i dont pretend to be a good/experienced rper, just someone that enjoys doing it, and has trouble getting the unwritten rules, so yes telling me im just bad at this can be a fair point (tough i swear im getting better).
@udyr I have to disagree, theres no way anyone can be emotionnally invested on just a profile (what u describe might be true after a session or 2 tough). Anyway after a bit of soulsearching (and hopefully im not opening a can of worms here), i d say its more because, as a representative of a mainstream sexuality, i m simply not used to not being catered to this way, and almost feel like im a minority. I can cope, but still i guess some of my posts can come as whiny, even tough i always try to keep them positive and offer solutions for what i see as problems ingame.
Anyway im still playing, because the good vastly exceeds the bad there, and im still here on the forum because i enjoy arguing the game almost as much as playing it.